None has ever won an argument.
The failure to win arguments or victory hurts the pride. This leads to renewed or divergent attempts at embarking on a fresh round of heated discussions, the aftermath of which is invariably â€œfailure.â€ Do not try and prove a point, force people to change their mind or gain victory through unsavoury argument. Polite people will agree with you for the sake of decency, but would resent you on the inside. And if you are very persuasive as you communicate, you may in a clandestine manner offend them or cause ill will.
Even if you are right, remember, nobody wins an acrimonious exchange, as both sides get more emotional, judgmental, biased, prejudiced, insular, haughty, adamant, sly or annoyed. Leave others to learn from their own experience and not your throttled suggestion or point of view. If it is unavoidable and you have to carp or advise people above you or older to you, do this indirectly and as discreetly as possible. Age and hierarchy create a false sense of ego, an â€œI have been there before youâ€ attitude, and attempts to directly advise or correct an experienced and older person may be like whistling against the wind.
Servitude makes a follower tomorrowâ€™s leader.
Martinets and autocrats like those who carry their orders with precision, rather than people who have a mind of their own. Their kind of an agreeable person is an individual who agrees with them come what may. Followers of sticklers mirror their thoughts, as they echo what the despot likes to hear and see. Obsequious subjects or attendants rush to obey the orders of leaders, to please them, to earn their praise and rewards, and to garner importance in the eyes of other sycophants. The game of followers and leaders has hierarchies and the climb to become the biggest disciple is an allusion to eventual emergence of a leader who would have ardent followers.
Contradictions in the name of destiny.
People who attribute mistakes to destiny and success as a part of their brains or intelligence delineate their mediocrity. They pass the buck in the name of mistakes, omissions and failures to destiny, and when it comes to their attainments, they gleefully pat themselves on the back and take complete credit for their accomplishments. This bundle of contradiction and oddities make such people obviate a simple fact that either you credit both your failure and success to destiny or gracefully accept the ups and downs of life as oneâ€™s own doing.
People who are afraid of making mistakes or do not believe that life is but a â€œlearning curveâ€ may not make a mark for themselves. Mistakes and failures lead to loss of face which is fleeting in nature, but he who profits from these mistakes, draws lessons from them, learns to cut the Gordian knot, moves onto newer challenges, climbs greater heights and attains the acme of professional excellence, is emulated and spoken about by people across frontiers.
Emotional and volatile individuals have a short attention span.
Emotional people can easily be digressed from calamities or failures by ephemeral joys. A setback or failure in such mindsets is layered over by a recent success, which is not only discussed, but exalted and hyped. Irascible people in determining appropriate action allow their anger to overrule their power of reasoning. Excitable and petulant individuals can easily be undermined. Anger, domination, rabid and emotional outbursts are a sign of helplessness and little self-control. People may in the interim be cowed down by your querulous or captious overtones, but in the long run, you lose respect and an opportunity to bond. Rigid, emotional, predictable or â€œgoodâ€ humans are often duped or let down by people closest to them. Treachery or communication gap is directly correlated with fixity in rules, principles, behaviour, beliefs, attitude, feelings or arrangements.
The opportunistic are not true to anyone.
The opportunistic incarnate have no country, ideology, class structures, emotions, permanent friends nor enemies. They have a special quality â€“ â€œadaptability,â€ which abets their rise and grandeur. Opportunism leads to detachment as well â€“ from people, places, thoughts and situations.
Are you at the nerve centre of your organisation?
Always try and be at the heart, nerve centre, or â€œcentre of buoyancyâ€ of the â€œprimaryâ€ business your organisation is engaged in. If you work in Insurance business â€“ you should be in the business development, sales, marketing or actuary discipline or function. If employed in commercial banking â€“ work in the consumer banking, corporate banking or private banking division (the heart of a bank is in lending and it is preferable for you to be involved as a corporate and/or retail lending manager). This strategy for career management would obviate your working as a â€œtitular headâ€ in a thankless job which is not central, principal or dominant to your employerâ€™s nature of business, and would also desist the temptation to succumb to a â€œquagmireâ€ of attractive compensation package, which may initially be doled out to satiate your ego, but a few years down the lane would leave you redundant and frustrated.
The society is made up of individuals who discuss ideas, events and people.
Individuals who like to discuss â€œideasâ€ will internally grow in life, and lead the way for people to follow. People who primarily like to discuss â€œeventsâ€ will follow the leader, and try and thrive under the aegis of the man in power or the popular leader. Individuals who prefer to discuss â€œpeopleâ€ will â€œenrichâ€ themselves with baloney, gossip and rumour mongering. Never share your secrets with those individuals who only deliberate on people and events.
Playing safe does not create entrepreneurs.
Taking calculated risks as a salaried employee with the organisationâ€™s resources behind the individual is different from the calculated risks of self employment. If a person is not ready to lose money, play the waiting game or is risk averse, the individual should avoid becoming an entrepreneur.
The good fear infamy.
People who are labelled as â€œfine individualsâ€ or â€œwonderful human beingsâ€ live with a big weakness Â± of being humiliated, disgraced and discredited. Loss of honour for the ÂªgoodÂº is sometimes more important to them than the wealth or material accoutrements acquired by them.
Prosperity comes through sagacious governance and development.
A country which does not provide integral rights to its citizens will continue its jogtrot or slow march and remain a laggard. The essentials which are vital for the prosperity of a nation: adequate power, water, education, law implementation and security, health- care, employment opportunities, infrastructure, sound leadership and governance. A state where great economic divide exists between the haves and the have-nots, and disparities continue to increase between the rich and the poor, will harbour anomie, crime, and lawlessness in the long run.
A divided nation attains certain heights â€“ â€œmediocrity.â€ People of a nation who run down their fellow countrymenâ€™s accomplishments can never become a glorious country. A nation, which does not treat the life of each citizen with dignity, can neither become a great nation nor a superpower. A country which forgets the heroics and sacrifices of its armed forces and law enforcement agencies (including cops), will continue to remain an ordinary nation. No outsider can rule a country till the citizens of that country allow it to do so. A nation, whose claim to fame in different arenas is only through the efforts of individual brilliance and abysmal team work, will never become a country that others would like to model. A nation where people suffer in silence, allow injustice to perpetrate oppression and tyranny, would never be labelled as a â€œnation with a voice on the global platform.â€ A country which exploits its citizens or gives them a raw deal in turn gets exploited by another nation.
If you are obsessed with a cause or goal, then live independently.
Individuals married to a cause should desist from tying the nuptial knot or getting married. The cause could be a career choice, a personal or a professional goal. When tied to an ultimate cause or goal a person thinks, dreams, sleeps, eats and works with only his or her motive in mind. If he or she decides to take the plunge and lead to the altar, they may serve their selfish needs, but for want of time and interest, he or she shall be engaged in constant bickering with his or her spouse. What suffers thereafter are both the cause and the marriage.